When partners physically acknowledge their significant other throughout the day —especially when they leave and reunite with each other— their relationship benefits a lot. It is through physical proximity, touch, eye gazing, relaxed facial expressions, smiling, the reassuring and comforting prosody of our partner’s voice that we know, from an internal experience, that we are … Continued
Many of the conflicts couples face are rooted in the experience of not being valued, cared for, and loved. This leaves partners not feeling secure in their relationship. As loving as our actions may be, if our partner does not experience them us as such, overtime s/he will be –to use Gary Chapman’s language– left … Continued
Hello Dear Psychotherapist Colleagues, Last year, I heard a lot of my colleagues talk about the power of Brainspotting. While tentatively curious, I asked a certified Brainspotting colleague to do a session with her. The depth of the work convinced me that Brainspotting allowed for very deep subcortical work –where traumas are held and deep long lasting healing takes … Continued
Here is a concept that could help set a positive tone for this coming year, and make it a much better one for you and your loved ones. Dr. Rick Hanson, Ph.D., author of the book “Hardwiring Happiness” teaches us about the neurological structures of our brains so that we can increase the quality of … Continued
If these CRM (Community Resiliency Model) skills can help our service members struggling with intense stressors and traumas most of us will never experience, imagine how helpful they can be for all of us managing our daily stressors or those who have truly been traumatized. In fact, these resiliency techniques are part of the foundation of all trauma informed … Continued
Gary Wilson is an influential spoke person and educator on the devastating effects of porn addiction. He helps us understand the brain neuroscience that leads many porn viewers to become compulsive porn addicts. Thanks to his research and dedicated work, and that of countless others, we can remove the moral, social, psychological and religious/spiritual stigmas … Continued
As we saw in the previous Post, grit is persistence with resilience. Since grit is a mixture of a lifestyle rooted in self-efficacy, proper support and guidance, and an ability to take consistent focused action, the following six guiding principles –which complement the previous five principles we talked about last month– should help you attain … Continued
Angela Duckworth’s book: “GRIT: The Power of Passion And Perseverance!” blasts some of the myths about grit. It also focuses at helping us integrate some basic principles to increase our grit factor! As the title says, grit is passion and perseverance focused for very long term goals. It is also having stamina, sticking with the … Continued
In his book “The Human Magnet Syndrome – why we love people who hurt us”, Ross Rosenberg offers us a model to explain our predisposition of being emotionally and sexually attracted to some types of people as opposed to others. This magnetic force intensely pulls some of us towards partners we know, in our best … Continued
In the previous Post we looked at the required criterions to officially diagnose someone with a full-blown Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), as opposed to some of us who can show narcissistic traits when our self-esteem and sense of self is threatened. We talked about their inherent limitations as they relate to being self-aware and accountable … Continued